Shamed before the team

Wazzzap Mamu..

My boss shouted at me in front of the whole management team . He told me I was wrong and that he didn't want me representing the team if I didn't change my way of thinking. I've served him loyally for months. I'm so traumatised by this incident. What can I do to overcome this fear ? I tremble every time I think of facing him again.

I'm sorry to hear that. This style of feedback is harsh, especially if your boss didn't specify how you were wrong and exactly what kind of thinking he wants you to operate by.

I understand how an incident like this can cause trauma ..in those moments, you' ve taken your boss's behaviour and made it to mean something negative about yourself.. " I'm wrong " " I'm not good enough. "Whatever you'be made it mean, you now feel weaker, confused, and fearful. These meanings in your head make you tremble in your body.

You remember what happened in the first person. for example as yourself. Now I'd  like you to step out of yourself and take up a third party position...look at the incident as if you were observing from a balcony above the meeting room. Let the incident play out. From that elevated position, what meanings can you make out about your boss and about what happened ?

Now step back even further. Take a community view. How does the incident look from the seat of governments and politics ? Take a universal view. How does everything look now that you're seated among the clouds ? You' ll find, the farther you step back, the more you disassociate from the incident, the less hurt you';; feel and the more sense and sanity you can bring back to what happened .

Achieving personal excellence

Dear Mamu,
Do you have a style by which you practice personal excellence ? If you can tell me your step-by -step approach, it will help me.

Personal excellence to my simply means doing my best...doing my best against a worthwhile standard, one I would be proud to be associated with. Like leaders, who've made this community a safer, fairer, and happier place.

The work isn't so much about struggling for achievement. The main work is around removing all the blocks -whether they are mental, emotional , or physical ..those things that get in the way of us doing well. Fore me these are my limiting beliefs about myself ..my perceived inadequacies and weaknesses.

If I had to put this into a process, I'd do the following :

I'd stop arguing, resisting, and defending against people and things that conflict with my values and start accepting and understanding other viewpoints. Instead of forcing and controlling, I'd be allowing and attracting  what naturally fits with me. I'd take responsibility for my life. I'd stop blaming others and making excuses for myself. Doing all this would place my power squarely back upon my own shoulders, now wouldn't it ?

All throughout, I'd be working on being more aware, being more present and in the 'now'. All throughout I'd be working to improve my skills and competence. While I'm looking outward to see how I could support others, I'd be looking inward to make sure my capabilities are honed to a level where I can honestly say, " I can ".

Achieving personal excellence is the main priority like Sam Witwicky in Transformers 3 ;

Dark Of The Moon

Day ‎6 ‎March, ‎2011/365: You Guys Make Me Happy

me and farah :D

I know some people who spend a lot of their lives trying to please other people; and in trying to do so, they often lose themselves, and get too worn down to give any energy to anything else. On the other end of the spectrum, some people who just couldn’t be bothered about the people around them, and just bounce around doing as they please.

from left nisa,mirul and ash

ok ? this's a bit odd ?

i don't know what the heck is wrong with chut hahaha xD

It is in our humanity to thrive on social interaction, but it’s also necessary to take care of our own well-being and happiness. It’s a difficult compromise; and I’m not one to be quick to settle for a compromise. I choose the best of both worlds. I surround myself with people who derive happiness from and through my happiness. People who smile when I smile. People who benefit from my endeavors towards happiness. People who are, in my definition, real friends.

from left mirul,nabila,ash

housemates Geometics

CHILLING AT THE TASIK WHATSOEVER NAMED

Thank you. You guys make me happy.

IT'S ALL ABOUT POSITIVE ENERGY

I still remember my Taekwando match on my tenth standard ?

I got scolded by Sir Nawas Khan

I came out so angrily and cried

Shouted

Then came my turn to score

I fight fiercely

I score 87.9

I changed my angriness into a positive energy

As now, I should do that too.

Everything like anger, dissapointments should be changed into a positive energy.

Get a guitar and go out

Make some noise.

Make everyone happy

Whatever happens...

LIFE HAS TO GO ON

whatever happens life has to go on...

HAPPY B'DAY PAPA :D

 Happy Papa :D ..sorri Pa x ckup duit nk blanje stick , janji small kek 1 candle, we have the best in our life,everything should be good around, if anything's wrong we fixed it together.anything for u and anything for our family..Happy B'day Hj Ayub ! haha

BURSTING WITH ENERGY

It's me.. MAMU  came to Shah Alam to study  Communications and Media. I also found a modern, lively and sophisticated urban lifestyle with a rich variety of cafes, restaurants, nightlife, movies and shopping experiences-and plenty of friends to share it with !

8 things u should know about me..

‎8 things u shud know bout me..

1. I do not care how I look
2. I am the homebuilder
3. I do not cry
4. I think rationally and practically
5. I am distant,aloof and stoic
6. I can be outspoken
7. I love competition
8. I've been cursed into 'something' waiting sum1 to break the spell.